In humans we see the movement of sexual energies prior to and independent of conception and reproduction. Most adolescents feel powerfully compelled by the sexual energies surging through their bodies long before and quite apart from any thoughts of propagating the race. They spend much of their teen years navigating the partly delicious, partly tormenting currents of sexual vibration. Adolescents feel urgently attracted to certain others, as if thrust together by nuclear-magnetic forces. They worry incessantly about their attractiveness or perceived lack thereof. They rush headlong into sexual and genital play with little thought to consequences and with little understanding of what it all means. They dance this oldest of all dances simply because they must, because as living creatures they must become channels for life's vital energies.
Meanwhile, we the hapless adults, former adolescents all, look upon our budding children with furrowed brows and gnashing teeth. We take legitimate concerns over unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases and turn them into evil horrors come to prey on foolish sinners. We try to scare young people sexless. We badger them with "Just say no" and "Wait until marriage." While the advertising and entertainment industries broadcast an unremitting mantra of "Sex is good! Do it now! You'll be cool," we, the serious, ever nay saying authorities, counter with "Well, no, I mean, sex isn't bad, I guess, but, I mean, well, just don't do it." We wonder why they never listen.
Adolescents need to hear a simple, consistent, honest message that uplifts and beatifies their beautiful bodies, that extols the glories of sexual pleasure, that clearly lays out the benefits and risks of genital play, along with proven ways for reducing harm, that fully informs them about the moving energies of emotion, sex and creativity, and that teaches them to effectively channel their awesome creative energies to make the world a better place. More than anything, we all need to understand and embrace our function as energy-channeling cocreators of this world.
Like sunlight and rain, the sexual-emotional energies flowing within and around us provide critical nourishment to our manifesting world. Energy, as it moves through human beings, becomes matter. Energy-in-motion serves as the raw material with which we participate in the cocreation of reality. Each of us succeeds or fails in life to the degree that we give form and direction to this creative force.
We make a huge mistake when we try to limit and suppress sexual energy. We fall into the ancient trap of thinking of sexual energy and genital play as existing primarily, if not exclusively, to further procreation. As a result we try to limit all feelings of sexual pleasure to one specific other, for one specific purpose. We ban all expressions of sexuality that fall outside the bounds of hetero-monogamy. We suppress, to our individual and collective detriment, the vital pulse of life, reducing to a mere trickle what should be an infinite river.
If we see humans as mere members of the animal kingdom, then the notion that we have sex for no other reason than causing pregnancy and passing on genes may make sense. When, however, we factor in human consciousness, the special mix of mind, heart, spirit and awareness that defines and empowers our species, we cannot help but notice the limitations of such thinking. Sex has so much more to offer us than only making babies.
A strong current of sexual energy coursing through a body can heal wounds, can transform pathologies, can make a person feel lighter, brighter and capable of doing more and better. Sexual energy can animate the artist's brush, can prompt the writer's words, can exalt the dancer's body, can fill the composer with joyful noise. Sexual energy provides the charismatic spark to inspire others, as well as the self-cauterizing of spiritual transformation. Most important of all, sexual energy feels good. Free-flowing sexual energy gives us the simplest, most human of pleasures. Feelings of pleasure provide far greater motivation toward right action than threats of shame, punishment and eternal damnation. When people feel good they tend toward doing good.
When sexual energy flows between two or more people, it may lead to genital play and a mutual bathing in revitalizing pleasures. It may lead to a brain-new pregnancy. Or it may be channeled into a strong expansion of creativity within each person, providing the seed and the sustaining power to bring something new into the world. Active and productive relationships with family members, coworkers, business partners, and best friends, or within athletic teams, artistic collaborations, and even most competitions, all have a current of sexual energy intercoursing among the participants, even if they never physically touch and even if they do not consciously entertain any thoughts of shared sexuality.
We especially stumble over any feelings of bodily, sexual pleasure when with our children. The movement of sexual energy occurs quite naturally as we play and snuggle with these beautiful people for whom we already feel such energy flowing love. Nursing mothers sometimes feel sexual arousal, as do many parents when bouncing children on their laps, or giving baths, or cuddling together at bedtime, or observing young bodies as they move into and through adolescence.
While we might feel grateful for such positive flows of pleasure energy and for the relationships that inspire such feelings, for most people feeling sexual arousal in the presence of children initiates a terrible crisis. We consider the feelings wrong, if not evil, and we react as we typically react to any unwanted feelings. We unconsciously suppress the energy or failing that, we express it. Unfortunately, both suppression and expression come with serious consequences to our children, ourselves and all our relationships.
Expressing sexual feelings with a child, from mild seductions to outright incest always harms the child. For adults to allow their strongest and most vital energies to engulf and contaminate a child with inevitable feelings of shame, guilt and forced submission constitutes the worst of child abuse. When adults engage in such abuse under the guise of love, it further darkens the act. What a terrible message to send to a child, to equate compulsive adult weakness with love. As strong and pleasurable as the love energy we share with our children may become, clear limits to the expression of that energy do exist. Parents must take responsibility for recognizing the limits and steadfastly honoring them.
Yet if we do not express our pleasure feelings with out children, we hardly do better to suppress the feelings. When we suppress sexual energy in the presence of a child we stifle our inward moving energies and without our outward expanding fields of love energy. We disconnect from the child. If we have been frightened enough by the "sinful" arousal of sexual energy, we might never fully connect with the child again. We might never again risk whole body, energy flowing love with this child or anybody else.
The eternal flux of sexual-creative energies occurs between all reasonably open people, regardless of gender, age, race, religion, marital status, sexual orientation, or unique station, or unique station in life. Whenever two or more people come together to make something happen, sexual-creative energy flows to fill the void between them and to empower their actions. They have a sexual energy-in-motion sharing experience. It can feel rote, forced, and uninspired, as for assembly line workers or test-taking students or sweatshop slaves. Or it can feel grand, juicy, and thrilling, as for jamming musicians and championship teams and emergency workers in the midst of a crisis.
To the extent that we sustain awareness of our energy-selves and stay open to the moving energies of others, then our lives grow rich with creative potential and valuable partners. We become comfortable with feeling sexual-creative energy with many others. We learn to appreciate the difference between genital play and creative play, and we experience both as divine pleasures. Though we may remain reserved regarding when and with whom we exchange energies with all willing partners.
Making full use of the sexual-creative energies available to us begins with the three practices of emotional flow which are, active acceptance, dynamic relaxation and conscious connected breathing. As we feel so energy moves. As we accept, relax into and breathe with our current circumstances, we encourage free-flowing energy-in-motion and become more empowered in all that we do.
Enoch Tan aims to help people achieve greater awareness in living and experiencing life. To evolve human consciousness to higher levels. To change lives and create possibility. To revolutionize the way we understand the mind and reality. Because that is what governs every area of life and destiny. Get Free Ebooks of Life's Greatest Secrets and Learn Secrets Most People will Never Know about the Mind and Reality Now at: Secrets of Mind and Reality
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